I recently read an opinion article recently about the new wave of weight loss drugs and who is to blame for the nationwide obesity we’re seeing. I’m generally in the camp of holding oneself responsible for one’s world. And Tamar Haspel in this article gave me a new perspective.
She pointed out that if 73% of Americans are overweight, it can’t be that so many of us are just lacking will power. She pointed out that it’s not a fair fight — our will power versus industrial food chemistry, big portion sizes and the social norms around it all. It’s like having a local tennis club and putting me against Serena Williams. Sure, I can work on my swing… but that’s just not gonna do it.
Which got me also thinking about how many other ways we might beat ourselves up for not winning in battles that are not fair fights. Corporate careers, college admissions, and who knows what else. Heck, studies show that people get paid less for every inch they’re shorter. In an arena that has nothing to do with my physical abilities, I’m docked for being 5 feet tall. It’s not a fair fight.
So, what do we do? How do we even the playing field? After being aware that it’s not a fair fight, and accepting that you’re doing your best… there’s no sense in getting angry. It’s not right, but there’s no one person to singled out and hollered at. It’s systems built on faulty goals and assumptions – the food industry’s goal is to sell more food. Unfortunately, that doesn’t benefit our health… but just being mad about it isn’t going to change much.
What you can do is ask questions and ask for help. Without an axe to grind. Tap into our humanity and let us help. You’re worth it… those of us around you know you’re worth it. We want to help you succeed.
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P.P.S. We watched the new Little Mermaid last night. LOVED Halle Bailey… but the best music of the movie is this Lin Manuel Miranda / Awkwafina / Davee Diggs contribution. Also… Ariel and Ursula, Ariel and Triton, Eric and Ursula … not fair fights. Good thing they had help. 😉
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