Today, it’s about human-ness.

This week in conversation my friend said to me “It’s because you don’t like, judge anyone.” I don’t remember what prompted her to say that, or what the “because” is. I remember that I laughed and said “of course I do, I’m human.”

Snap judgement is what helped humans survive. The human who ran from the rustle in the tree without waiting to figure out if it’s actually dangerous was more likely to survive than the human who examined the rustle. That more thoughtful human got eaten by a lion.

Judgement is part of the human machinery. If you’ve been watching Resident Alien like I recommended, you’d see how much of alien Harry’s actions, emotions and thoughts are driven by the human DNA. It’s just what we’re programmed to do. The thing about judgements is to notice that they’re snappy and probably false, and then let them go. If it seems like I don’t judge anyone, it’s just because I don’t believe my judgements.

Sometimes though, judgement gets spiked with adrenaline, and then they are hard to let go of. Like if someone cuts me off or is mean to their dog. That makes me mad, and then it’s hard to be anything but judgy and holier-than-thou. What works for me for letting go of all that is “I too…”

I too have been in a rush and cut someone off.
I too have had a crappy day and yelled at my sweet dog.
I too have put a wrapper in my pocket and had it fall out.
I too have made mistakes.

I just have to remember that, and then it’s real easy to forgive and love any one.